MY DREAM SOUL MATE :
A BETTER CHOICE IN MUTUAL
INTEREST CAN  SHAPE OUR LIVES..

By RAASHID UL NABI KHAN

I  am truly blessed to have you in my life!!  Through Today’s writeup I decided to write, out of  the way a few words to my beloved better half, as a tribute to all the pious sisters who shape their Aakhirat by the dint of  their will power to do wonders.
Things would not have been the same if you weren’t around. In all my ups and downs, good and bad times, you stood by me like a rock. You accepted me as an imperfect being, agreed I am a way more messy than I should have been. You are my answered prayer, my fulfilled wish, my realized dream. Alhamdulillah!
Thanks a lot for tolerating my senseless talks, throwing things everywhere, and forgetting a couple of things everytime I go for shopping. And, big thanks for cooking all the yummy dishes. Add to it, not just wife, you have been the best mother and a daughter-in-law. JazakAllah khair!
My wife helps me in Quranic recitation!! SubhanAllah!! She recite and read Quran fluently!! MashaAllah!! She had done graduation in Arabic as one of the subject!!
I have not read Arabic as a language!! I have transliteration/translation of Quran by Yusuf Ali, I have memorized various surahs (chapters) of Quran Alhamdullilah Suma Alhamdullilah!!  I also know various verses of Quran which help me in Dawah most of the times, Alhamdullilah!!
I am lucky that my soulmate accepted me as a person. One who did not have a government job (which going by the current trends is the first criteria people look for).
She is better than me in every aspect! Though my writings has wide reach out still she is my counselor!! She advices me and drawing my attention towards great things in life! Life is beyond Government job!
Some tips in Islam for better relationship
1. Do not be a Dictator
A husband should not act as a dictator or cruel behaviour.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives”.
2. Be partners in the decision making
Make decision jointly, it will definitely increase the love and affection.
3. Never be abusive
Never abuse your better half. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives.
4. Be careful of your words
Always choose the words of love and affection. Never hurt your wife with bitter words. Be honourable in conversation.
5. Show kindness
Show kindness to your better half. Be kind, gentle, and loving.
6.Be your wife’s friend
Enjoy life together as friends. Share your sad and joyful moments together.
7. Always Appreciate your soulmate
Always Appreciate her thoughts, projects, everytime make her feel special.
8. Work together in home
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) helped his wives in household work. We should follow the example of our Prophet and we must always help of soulmate in different household work.
9. Give your spouse time
Always give quality time to your better half. She will feel great and appreciated.
10. Admit your Mistakes
If you mistake admit it and if your better half makes a mistake forgive her. Never be angry with her.
The essence of above mentioned points can be beautifully summed in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
I expressed my love and affection for my wife on Facebook and I received a beautiful comment as a feedback  from Sister Lubna Sultan Durrani, she is a judge (Judicial Magistrate) by profession said and I quote her words!!
“Lucky woman! Brother Raashid Ul Nabi Khan You are a rare person who is writing such beautiful lines for your better half and that too on social media only the pious and God fearing men dare to appreciate and feel proud for their wives. Mostly  men feel shameful and less of being a man if they feel or speak good about their wives, they feel as if they lost prestige if they talk or shower their love over their wife…even their family or people around them look down upon those men if they become vocal or expressive about their feelings towards their wife.
I truely feel respectful for you for expressing your feeling for our sister, it must be encouraging her to be her best and make her realise her full potential as a wife, mother and daughter in law.Happiness breeds efficiency in relationships.
God bless you both and protect your love from evil eye..!!!
Remeber us in your duas!”
My dear Soulmate Jabeena Noor,  May Allah Bless you with Imman, Taqwa and strength to fight whispers of Shaiteen. May we be in Jannah together, In Sha Allah??
Raashid Ul Nabi Khan is a Law graduate also holds Masters in political science along with BEd. He is a member at JKIFTS council of writers. He is a member at Jamia Islamia Mahdul Muslimat. He is also a member at Islamic Fraternity of Kashmir. He can be reached at raashidulnabikhan.dawah@gmail.com